Friday, September 01, 2006

HAVE YOU EVER....

Have you ever had a crush on someone whose sexual orientation you questioned?

I'm going through that right now...a co-worker...good-looking...good body...tight jeans...tight shirt...tight ass...amazing hands...oh, dear...he's given me a few massages. I'm starting to think I just like his hands on me..on my shoulders especially, massaging the knots (and there are A LOT! Oh, did I mention he gives the most incredible massages...at work...while no one's looking and sometimes when they are...oh, dear...so unprofessional, I know) away. What do I do? How do I find out? It's been driving me nuts...argh!

13 comments:

Dance Chica said...

Ask? LOL. I don't know. Guess that'd be pretty awkward huh? "So, uh...are you gay?" LOL. Good luck with that! :-P

Avid Reader said...

There has to be SOMEONE around there who can give you some dirt, girl. However, if your gut says he's gay, he's gay. No matter what.

romancelover said...

OK...THERE IS NO ONE WHO CAN GIVE ME DIRT...NO ONE. NO ONE CAN FIGURE IT OUT EITHER. MY GUT TELLS ME DIFFERENT THINGS EVERY DAY. THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED BEFORE AND IT'S DRIVING ME NUTS! MY GUT TELLS ME TO MOVE ON THOUGH! Oy!

Avid Reader said...

oy, is right. Ok, advice: GET OVER IT. :-) Move on. Or if your bold, ask him. I feel for you, tho. Most good looking men seem to be er gay.

Good luck. Keep us informed!

romancelover said...

Hey again!

The fact that I suspect he's gay (or at least bi) has actually cooled down the lust I briefly felt for this guy. I think he'd be cool to have as a friend...I never thought I'd have a relationship with him or anything...I don't know, to be honest, but just to let you know...the feelings have cooled down a bit...I'd still like to know. As for being bold enough to ask him if he's gay or straight...just can't do it. We're at work and I can't just ask him. Never mind...I'll keep you posted just to let you know, but nothing will come of it. I need to stop being attracted to unavailable men (I'm old enough to know better)

Janet W. said...

Hey Daniela!! Missed reading your blog over the past week or so ... I've been visiting in Canada. But I can't resist asking if you've read Mary Balogh's book -- The Famous Heroine -- http://www.likesbooks.com/cgi-bin/bookReview.pl?BookReviewId=1971

it concerns a bride who is "sure" her husband is, well, hmmm ... that there is a "reason" why he wears brightly coloured coats, doncha know :)

Just a wonderful laugh-out-loud book!

romancelover said...

JAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANET!!!!

I got your postcard and I've missed you so. We need to meet up and do something..maybe lunch near the water or something...anything!

I haven't read any Baloghs lately, including the new one SIMPLY LOVE. I don't even think I own THE FAMOUS HEROINE, but I will have to check that one out. I don't feel like spending $23 on SIMPLY LOVE...I am going to try my hardest to wait 'til it comes out in paperback! Wish me luck! Can't wait 'til you get back.

sybil said...

If you are getting massages and he hasn't hit on you yet, no matter what hon it isn't happening.

Ten to one he is gay and if he isn't, he isn't interested. Cuz you can't say he is just too shy.

And yes, stop the massages at work. Looks bad even if he is gay.

romancelover said...

I know I know...and I will.

Mailyn said...

well, if nobody is any wiser, why stop the massages? so long as you don't feel anything for the dude anymore I say get those freebies. I used to have that with a friend at work. he gave the best massages ever! nothing between us, mind you, just friends, but he hooked it up like that. lol.

romancelover said...

Mailyn - You sound exactly like my friend Debbie. LOL...you're awesome.

CindyS said...

Hmmm, what about looking at him with a funny smile and saying, you know I used to have a crush on you.

Course if he is gay he will just laugh it off especially if he is a closet one.

If he is straight he might be intrigued and ask you what happened that you no longer have a crush on him. (at that point you can say you wouldn't want to jeapordize your job or frienship so you knew if you gave it time it would pass)

The only thing is if he is straight you might end up with a guy who is looking to stalk you.

There was a guy at my last job who would give me neck massages but I was aware of how inappropriate it was and would get all tense. He was married so I didn't like that he felt so familiar with me that he could touch me. Back then I was shy though so I never said anything. I would be different if the guy gave everybody massages.

Good Luck
Can't wait to hear if you find a way to find out. You could ask him what colour ochre is ;)

CindyS

romancelover said...

I think he's gay...somehow my 'dar's been going off big time lately...argh!