Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Where have I been?

Easy....men suck...and that's all I'm going to say about it right now.

You have a friend...a male friend...initially you have a crush, but realize it's not really meant to be, so you move on and start developing feelings of friendship for the guy. You end up perhaps, during a night of loneliness, well...I guess doing more than you should with the person. Relationship complicated in a matter of minutes (literally). You try to keep things the way they were and it's really not that difficult to do so. It's very easy. He's your friend and you act like he's your friend. Then one day, you make plans with him. He flakes on you. You respond with text indicating that he should just say no next time he doesn't want to hang. You don't hear from him for 5 days. You text him and nothing. WTF? I don't get guys...at all. I'm a tad annoyed and irritated because I actually like the guy and his friendship. I don't want anything else and I'm being completely honest here. I don't understand why he'd act this way. And you know how it goes...we ladies will try not to call because we then remember...wait a sec...I actually did something with this guy and he might think I want him when I actually don't. It's so frustrating...and complicated...and...and...well, I just about have knots in my stomach because of it.

It doesn't help that I've been on some meds recently that have taken away my appetite, so I've got knots in my stomach and a general feeling of starvation. Ugh! Fantastic....so, there it goes....I'm still looking for my hero. My friend is acting like a douche and I don't get it at all. I've heard it all...don't text him, don't call him...forget him, but the guy is my friend...it just sucks that perhaps the friendship might have been ruined one dark lonely night.

Anyhow, I can't read romances. AT ALL...NOT NOW. Romances only make me angry right now. I'm not bitter, but I'm not in the mood to read some chick's happily ever after, including a chick created by the great Lisa Kleypas (I still haven't read SUGAR DADDY).



Holly said...

Aww babycakes, that bites. Boys are dumb, you know.

I would say chill out on trying to reach him for a bit, and then try again. Or send him an email telling him what's up. You don't want to lose his friendship and you hope things won't be awkward, like that.

BIG HUGS! Email me if you want.

Kristie (J) said...

Men are stupid - even the smart ones! And this coming from the mother of two of the species. I'm sorry to hear your (former) friend is acting like such a jackass - but alas it comes with the territory. ((((((Big Hugs))))))))

But it sure is nice to see you again. I don't care if you're reading romance or not. I'm just glad you're checking in with us!

Lori said...

Aww, I'm sorry he's being such a dufus. Guys can be such idiots. I hope you are able to salvage your friendship.

It's good to see you back, though.

Rowena said...

Wow, he's being a big jerk! I'm sorry he's being that way to you sweets, that sucks!


romancelover said...

Update: Haven't spoken to him in a week and a half and I think he's dumped me as a friend. What a jerk! He friggin' hurt my feelings. Asshole!

Why are some guys such retards?

avidbookreader said...

Because they are retards. Hey, hang in there. What comes around, goes around. --K.

Devon said...

Hi, glad to see you around. Sorry about the crappy situation. I hate to say it, but so many men (most, really) seem to have a certain level of immaturity and self-importance, where they are unable to believe that a woman wouldn't fall completely in love with them, just because there was some kissage or something. Like they're just so magnetic. And so they freak. Men are weird.

His loss. It sucks, but it will fade. And maybe I'm being overly negative, and he's just swamped, and you'll hear from him. But who knows if you'll want to, then.

Hope all is well.

romancelover said...

Devon - I'm turned off by his behavior and I wouldn't kiss him or let him touch me if he paid all my student loans off. It's over...what a loser!

Kate D. said...

I'm sorry you're going through sucky guy behavior. Impressive Communication Skills (ha!) strike again.